Enjoy this story..My Bear and I often sing our conversations with each other. It eases transitions and catches her attention...Last night over dinner I sang..."eat your dinner, it is so yummy, I love you so much. I cooked this food for you..." she sang, "I love you mama, you are so smart and you wash my butt"
Personal Research on Parenting Rule #9: Feel appreciated!
25 March 2010
08 January 2010
The difference between can and will
Maria Montessori knew that children were quite capable beyond what they were permitted to do for themselves. Can a 3 year old butter their own toast? Can they take their own shoes off and put them on again? Can they pour their own milk, wash the dishes, clean up toys, sing the entire or at least parts of the musical of Annie, use a hammer, memorize the 7 continents, learn social graces, be safe with tools or help a friend in need? Yes they can, gaining independence, building self esteem and social graces with each experience.
Today I asked my bear, "CAN you please take off your shoes?" unintentionally questioning her ability that I already know she can do. She said, "No I can't, CAN you do it for me?" What a bummer for her self esteem! So I said, "WILL you please take off your shoes?" she said "Okay Mom", and did it. Simply by using the word "will" instead of "can" shows her that I know and believe that she is capable and intelligent enough to manage all the little things that are required in daily life. Will she need assistance sometimes? Yup! Will she break a glass or spill water or tie a knot in her shoe laces or skip a few words in 'Tomorrow' or use way to much butter? No doubt about it. But that's exactly what she should be doing and I'll be there every step of the way supporting her to success in all of these daily life experiences, especially the clean up.
Personal research on parenting rule #6: Question the will not the ability.
Today I asked my bear, "CAN you please take off your shoes?" unintentionally questioning her ability that I already know she can do. She said, "No I can't, CAN you do it for me?" What a bummer for her self esteem! So I said, "WILL you please take off your shoes?" she said "Okay Mom", and did it. Simply by using the word "will" instead of "can" shows her that I know and believe that she is capable and intelligent enough to manage all the little things that are required in daily life. Will she need assistance sometimes? Yup! Will she break a glass or spill water or tie a knot in her shoe laces or skip a few words in 'Tomorrow' or use way to much butter? No doubt about it. But that's exactly what she should be doing and I'll be there every step of the way supporting her to success in all of these daily life experiences, especially the clean up.
Personal research on parenting rule #6: Question the will not the ability.
06 January 2010
The Importance of Language
How easy life would be if I could just remember never to speak in negative terms. As I was washing the dishes my little bear asked if I could help her pick up her toys. Silly me says "No. I can't. I have to wash the dishes". This caused a 2 minute out of control, body flailing, high pitched wailing fit! Then I said, " If you want my help you will have to wait until I'm done with the dishes!" She stood up, wiped the tears with the back of her hands and said "Can I just do it myself , mama?" Absolutely!
Personal research on parenting rule#4: Keep it positive!
Personal research on parenting rule#4: Keep it positive!
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